Self-control
The final fruit of the spirit in
Paul’s list sounds like a distinct anti-climax. What could be duller than
self-control? It reminds us of the grim struggle not to eat that second
chocolate biscuit (or even the first), not to get enraged at the irritating
uncle who always ruins the family gathering. It sounds negative, life- and
pleasure-denying. And yet, in many ways, it is fundamental to all those fruits
which have gone before it. If we can’t control ourselves, we will have no power
to do anything other than to go with the flow of every emotion and impulse that
hits us. How can we be loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful
or gentle if we can’t stop ourselves doing the things which destroy them?
Self-control gives us choice. It is the key to freedom.
Self-control doesn’t mean we never
show emotion, or that we never struggle, though. In the Garden of Gethsemane
Jesus was wracked with fear and sorrow at the thought of his coming
crucifixion, but he didn’t run away. (Luke 22.39-46) He chose to go through
with the mission to which he had been called to its end. His courageous self-control
enabled him to choose to show love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,
faithfulness and gentleness even as he was being mocked and killed.
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Do you think of yourself as self-controlled? If
not, what gets in the way? Why is it difficult for you to resist the temptation
to do something you know to be wrong?
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When did you last lose your self-control and
why? What were the consequences?
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Pray:
that God would give you confidence in his love so that you can find the courage
to make tough choices when you need to.
Afterword
Fruit doesn’t grow overnight,
unless it is a magic beanstalk, and fruit trees often need regular care and
attention if they are to produce anything worth eating. I love gardening, and
helping people to cultivate what God is growing in their lives is the best sort
of gardening there can be.
If this set of reflections has made
you think about the fruitfulness of your life, or has stirred up questions or
feelings, please feel free to get in touch.
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